Wednesday, March 29, 2017

My Pile

The Beastie asked me "Mommy, are you tired AGAIN?"  Well, Beastie, I am.  I'm spent.  Mentally and physically spent. But I'm living in a world where you can't say things like that.  To the Super Stay at Home Mom-  I'm the Working Mom stereotype that is ruining my child.  To the Working Mom- I'm not prioritizing properly. To my employees- I've let them down.  To my boss- I can't handle the stress.  To my husband- I'm just complaining.  To my mom- I've taken on too much.  Have I?  Probably.  Would I change a thing?  No.  Sometimes I just need a moment.  Sometimes, I just need a minute to just...be.

Some exciting news- I officially begin school next month.  That's right- this degree hoarder is getting her MBA!  This has been a goal of mine for quite some time now, and I can't believe it's finally happening.  One more thing to add to the pile- but I like my pile.  My pile is filled with adventures, learning, books, and great people.  I like my pile.  Sometimes I just need a minute, but that doesn't mean I don't want to keep my pile.

I read an article on why people burn out and why some don't.  They argued that those who overachieve at the same things burn out quickly.  On the other hand, those that compartmentalize, those that overachieve in different areas burn out at a much slower rate, if at all.  I'd like to think this is me.  I'd like to think I allow my managers to compartmentalize.  I try to be the kind of manager that let's her people try and learn new things.  I want them to have a comfortable space for trial and error.

I have colleagues that argue I shouldn't let my managers who are not at goal to do anything outside of managing their team.  I don't manage that way.  I want them to find a space where they stay engaged.  Of course I don't want them to be an under-performer, but why not have happy engaged employees that are doing their best in lieu of unhappy top performers?  Ideally you'd have both.  But I'm not going to punish anyone giving it their all.

What do you do?  How do you manage the extra curricular and performance?  How to handle not balancing it all?

Be kind.  Be human.  Lead.
Jessie

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